Grief and the Holidays
The holidays can be a hard time for many of us, whether we’re actively grieving a recent loss or just missing a loved one. In recent years, it’s even more of a challenge. Here’s my three-question approach to make grief and the holidays just a bit less hard, so you can be present and show up the way you want for the holidays.
When Disaster Strikes
Did you feel blindsided, derailed or knocked off course after the death of a loved one? Certified grief coach Charlene Lam shares an analogy that can be helpful for getting a grasp on the effects of a massive loss.
“I don’t want to move forward without them.”
There’s often a feeling of pain associated with the passage of time and the idea of leaving the loved ones we lost behind. In this video, I share The Dash Between, a concept that helps me cope with this painful feeling and notion of having to “move on” or leave our loved ones behind as we move forward with our own lives.
When you want to read or hear other people’s experiences with loss:
Modern Loss – Essays from real people on a range of loss
Podcast: The Grief Gang – UK-based podcast normalizing conversations about grief
When you want to share and connect with other grievers:
The Griefcase – Instagram account encouraging creative expression founded by illustrator Poppy Chancellor and monthly gathering (co-hosted by me!) for peer support
The Grief Gallery’s monthly gathering – My monthly grief gathering for creative inspiration and community connection — feel free to bring an object that belonged to, or reminds you of, a loved one
Let’s Reimagine – Robust schedule of events exploring post-traumatic loss
Motherless Daughters Community Calls – Weekly meetings founded by Hope Edelman, author of “Motherless Daughters”
When you want to learn more about grief and grief theory:
What’s Your Grief? Podcast, articles and training
Grief Literacy training by Being Here, Human – 1:1 support and online workshops with a radical approach to grief support and education that challenges conventional approaches, including not pathologizing grief
For thought-provoking conversations about death and dying:
Good Grief Festival – Live events as well as replays of 100+ conversations about grief (including the Continuing Bonds panel I was on!) during festival organized by the University of Bristol
Death Cafe – Conversations about death and dying led by everyday people
Empathy – Loss companion app (US-based)
Cake – End-of-Life Planning app and articles
If you lost your parents at a young age:
The book “The Rules of Inheritance” – Therapist Claire Bidwell-Smith lost both parents by the time she was twenty-five years old, and her first book is called “The Rules of Inheritance.”
The Dead Parent Club – This UK-based podcast has many guests who lost a parent at a young age.
I help grieving people feeling burdened by responsibilities, resentments and regrets after the death of a loved one to feel lighter –– so you can live your own fullest life.
After the sudden death of my mother Marilyn in 2013, I put my life, work and grief on hold as I struggled to deal with the estate, paperwork and belongings.
Healing took time — and it took help.
I’m a certified grief coach, with particular focus on tapping into creativity and narrative development for post-traumatic growth and meaning reconstruction.
As curator of The Grief Gallery, I present exhibitions internationally online and in-person about grief and loss, often featuring the belongings of people’s lost loved ones.
I’m the author of the forthcoming book Curating Grief: A Creative Guide to Choosing What to Keep After a Loved One Dies.
A proud New Yorker, I split my time between NYC and Lisbon, Portugal, and travels frequently for work and leisure.
Get In Touch
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Need help with grief? I can help.
Email hello [at] charlenelam.com