Grief and the Holidays
The holidays can be a hard time for many of us, whether we’re actively grieving a recent loss or just missing a loved one. In recent years, it’s even more of a challenge. Here’s my three-question approach to make grief and the holidays just a bit less hard, so you can be present and show up the way you want for the holidays.
Grief and the New Year: “I don’t want to move forward without them.”
There’s often a feeling of pain associated with the passage of time and the idea of leaving the loved ones we lost behind. In this video, I share The Dash Between, a concept that helps me cope with this painful feeling and notion of having to “move on” or leave our loved ones behind as we move forward with our own lives.
Fresh Grief? 5 Things I Want You to Know After a Recent Loss
Have you recently lost a loved one? Here are 5 things I want you to know, from grief’s “timeline” to getting support. (Can you say OPP?)
In my signature talk, I share how to choose what to keep after a loved one dies.
When Disaster Strikes
Did you feel blindsided, derailed or knocked off course after the death of a loved one? Certified grief coach Charlene Lam shares an analogy that can be helpful for getting a grasp on the effects of a massive loss.
Mother’s Day Grief after Parental Loss
Whether your mom has died or you’re dealing with loss related to dementia or estrangement, Mother’s Day can bring up a lot of mixed feelings. Here are some resources from grief coach Charlene Lam and her colleagues.
)When you want to read or hear other people’s experiences with loss:
Modern Loss – Essays from real people on a range of loss
Podcast: The Grief Gang – UK-based podcast normalizing conversations about grief
When you want to share and connect with other grievers:
The Grief Gallery’s monthly gathering – My monthly grief gathering for creative inspiration and community connection — feel free to bring an object that belonged to, or reminds you of, a loved one
Let’s Reimagine – Robust schedule of events exploring post-traumatic loss
Motherless Daughters Community Calls – Weekly meetings founded by Hope Edelman, author of “Motherless Daughters”
When you want to learn more about grief and grief theory:
What’s Your Grief? Podcast, articles and training
For thought-provoking conversations about death and dying:
Good Grief Festival – Live events as well as replays of 100+ conversations about grief (including the Continuing Bonds panel I was on!) during festival organized by the University of Bristol
Death Cafe – Conversations about death and dying led by everyday people
Practical assistance and apps:
Lantern – End-of-Life resources and connections to services (mostly US-based)
Empathy – Loss companion app (US-based)
Cake – End-of-Life Planning app and articles (mostly US-based)
AfterLight (formerly Black Dress Consulting – Concierge service for legacy planning and after loss assistance
Untangle Grief – App with emotional and practical support (UK-based)
Grief Works – App by UK grief expert Julia Samuels with a course, tools and journaling features
If you lost your parents at a young age:
The book “The Rules of Inheritance” – Therapist Claire Bidwell-Smith lost both parents by the time she was twenty-five years old, and her first book is called “The Rules of Inheritance.” She also hosts the podcast A New Day.
The Dead Parent Club – This UK-based podcast has many guests who lost a parent at a young age.
More Grief Podcasts:
Grief is My Side Hustle – with trauma therapist Meghan Riordan Jarvis
The Widowed Parent Podcast – your guide to “only-parenting“ after the loss of a spouse by Jenny Lisk. who lost her husband to brain cancer when their kids were 9 & 11
The Widowed Mom Podcast – By grief coach Krista St-Germain, whose husband was killed by a drunk driver
Grief Out Loud – Hosted by Jana DeCristofaro and produced by Dougy Center, the Grief Out Loud podcast brings you a mix of personal stories; tips for supporting children, teens, and yourself; and interviews with professionals
I help grieving people feeling burdened by responsibilities, resentments and regrets after the death of a loved one to feel lighter –– so you can live your own fullest life.
After the sudden death of my mother Marilyn in 2013, I put my life, work and grief on hold as I struggled to deal with the estate, paperwork and belongings.
Healing took time — and it took help.
I’m a certified grief coach, with particular focus on tapping into creativity and narrative development for post-traumatic growth and meaning reconstruction.
As curator of The Grief Gallery, I present exhibitions internationally online and in-person about grief and loss, often featuring the belongings of people’s lost loved ones.
I’m the author of the forthcoming book Curating Grief: A Creative Guide to Choosing What to Keep After a Loved One Dies.
A proud New Yorker, I split my time between NYC and Lisbon, Portugal, and travels frequently for work and leisure.
Get In Touch
- +1 917 376 7339
MONTHLY GRIEF GATHERING
Join us for The Grief Gallery's free, supportive grief group gathering the last Wednesday of the month, 2pm ET (7pm UK).
CURATING GRIEF PODCAST
- Listen to the Curating Grief podcast
Need help with grief? I can help.
Get in touch: Email hello [at] charlenelam.com
Note: Coaching and coaching consultations are not a substitute for counseling, psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, mental health care, substance abuse treatment, or other professional advice by legal, medical or other qualified professionals. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, contact 911 or your local emergency services.