Grief Resources

AAPI Grief: An Asian-American Experience of Loss

Culture, heritage and family of origin: All of these can shape your experiences of grief and loss. Here are 5 ways my Chinese-American heritage influenced mine.


Father’s Day Grief

Father’s Day can be bittersweet. After the loss of your dad or father figure, here are some ways to cope or even celebrate.


Fresh Grief? 5 Things to Know After a Recent Loss

Have you recently lost a loved one? Here are 5 things I want you to know, from grief’s “timeline” to getting support. (Can you say OPP?)


Grief and Loss: When Disaster Strikes

Did you feel blindsided, derailed or knocked off course after the death of a loved one? Certified grief coach Charlene Lam shares an analogy that can be helpful for getting a grasp on the effects of a massive loss.

Curating Grief: How to Choose What to Keep After a Loved One Dies

In my signature talk, I share how to choose what to keep after a loved one dies.

Mother’s Day Grief after Parental Loss

Whether your mom has died or you’re dealing with loss related to dementia or estrangement, Mother’s Day can bring up a lot of mixed feelings. Here are some resources from grief coach Charlene Lam and her colleagues.


Grief and the Holidays

The holidays can be a hard time for many of us, whether we’re actively grieving a recent loss or just missing a loved one. In recent years, it’s even more of a challenge. Here’s my three-question approach to make grief and the holidays just a bit less hard, so you can be present and show up the way you want for the holidays.


Grief and the New Year: “I don’t want to move forward without them.”

There’s often a feeling of pain associated with the passage of time and the idea of leaving the loved ones we lost behind. In this video, I share The Dash Between, a concept that helps me cope with this painful feeling and notion of having to “move on” or leave our loved ones behind as we move forward with our own lives.



I’m Charlene

I am a certified grief coach, curator, speaker, and the founder of The Grief Gallery. I help grieving people to feel lighter and less burdened by all the physical and emotional "stuff” after a loss, using the lens of curating.

After my mother died suddenly in 2013, I leaned into my creativity and instincts as a curator to guide myself through grief. I developed my Curating Grief coaching framework to help people process their grief in a creative, accessible way.

My certifications and ongoing training include Claire Bidwell Smith’s Grief and Loss program, Megan Devine’s Grief Care training through PESI, What’s Your Grief’s continuing education, and the Portland Institute of Grief and Loss programs in using art and meaning reconstruction in grief work.

I'm the author of the forthcoming book Curating Grief: A Creative Guide to Choosing What to Keep After a Loved One Dies. My podcast guest appearances include Grief Out Loud, the Feminist Wellness podcast, and the What Works podcast with Tara McMullin.

A proud Chinese-American New Yorker (like my mom), I'm currently based in Lisbon, Portugal, and work with grief coaching clients worldwide.

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Additional Grief Resources

When you want to read or hear other people’s experiences with loss:

Modern Loss  Essays from real people on a range of loss

Podcast: The Grief Gang  UK-based podcast normalizing conversations about grief


When you want to share and connect with other grievers:

The Grief Gallery’s monthly gathering My monthly grief gathering for creative inspiration and community connection — feel free to bring an object that belonged to, or reminds you of, a loved one

Let’s ReimagineRobust schedule of events exploring post-traumatic loss

Motherless Daughters Community CallsWeekly meetings founded by Hope Edelman, author of “Motherless Daughters”


When you want to learn more about grief and grief theory:

What’s Your Grief? Podcast, articles and training


For thought-provoking conversations about death and dying:

Good Grief Festival – Live events as well as replays of 100+ conversations about grief (including the Continuing Bonds panel I was on!) during festival organized by the University of Bristol

Death Cafe – Conversations about death and dying led by everyday people


Practical assistance and apps:

Lantern – End-of-Life resources and connections to services (mostly US-based)

Empathy – Loss companion app (US-based)

Cake End-of-Life Planning app and articles (mostly US-based)

AfterLight (formerly Black Dress ConsultingConcierge service for legacy planning and after loss assistance

Untangle GriefApp with emotional and practical support (UK-based)

Grief WorksApp by UK grief expert Julia Samuels with a course, tools and journaling features


If you lost your parents at a young age:

The book “The Rules of Inheritance” – Therapist Claire Bidwell-Smith lost both parents by the time she was twenty-five years old, and her first book is called “The Rules of Inheritance.” She also hosts the podcast A New Day.

The Dead Parent ClubThis UK-based podcast has many guests who lost a parent at a young age.

More Grief Podcasts:

Grief is My Side Hustlewith trauma therapist Meghan Riordan Jarvis

The Widowed Parent Podcastyour guide to “only-parenting“ after the loss of a spouse by Jenny Lisk. who lost her husband to brain cancer when their kids were 9 & 11

The Widowed Mom PodcastBy grief coach Krista St-Germain, whose husband was killed by a drunk driver

Grief Out LoudHosted by Jana DeCristofaro and produced by Dougy Center, the Grief Out Loud podcast brings you a mix of personal stories; tips for supporting children, teens, and yourself; and interviews with professionals





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