Make space for grief.
Get personalized, private grief support with 1:1 grief coaching.
You’re a smart, competent person. You like feeling in control.
You’re proud of the life you have or are building, despite the challenges you’ve faced.
You have a business, career or other work that keeps you pretty busy.
You’re the “responsible one,” often taking care of others, whether it’s family members, children, friend or clients.
You like feeling on top of things.
HERE’S THE PROBLEM
When we experience Grief and Loss after the death of a loved one, we are often confronted with circumstances outside our control.
- Death, illness, life-changing diagnoses.
- How other people act, and what they say or don’t say.
- Family dynamics and conflicts.
- Our bodies and brains responding in unfamiliar ways.
And often, because we’re the “responsible ones” we may suddenly have a lot more stuff on our plates.
- The physical stuff: Belongings, heirlooms, junk, piles to sort through.
- The responsibilities: The estate, probate, paperwork, appointments, endless decisions.
- The emotional stuff: Regret, resentment, anger, anxiety, guilt, the strained relationships. The sheer exhaustion.
It’s a lot.
That’s when the life you’re trying to build feels like it’s at risk.
When we feel like we might lose even more: Our own physical or mental health, our relationships, our livelihood.
THERE IS HOPE
You CAN get through this. You are NOT going crazy. (Grief just makes us feel crazy sometimes.)
Lighten your load.
What you need is the right kind of grief support. For you.
You need a realistic plan of action for the coming weeks and months. (Grief extends beyond 3 days of bereavement leave.)
You need to understand why you’re feeling the way you are, and your individual grieving style. (You’re not doing it wrong.)
You need a personal tool kit to help you navigate the emotional and practical aftermath of this huge loss.
You need the attention and support of someone who understands what you’re going through, and who cares about and remembers the details of your loss. (No need to recount the story over and over to your therapist and well-meaning acquaintances.)
You need to know you’re not alone. Not anymore.
That’s why I’m here for you.
HELLO
I’m Charlene
I help grieving people to feel more supported, less alone and better-equipped to navigate the practical and emotional aftermath of losing a loved one.
After my mother died suddenly in 2013, I leaned into my creativity and instincts as a curator to guide myself through grief. From there, I decided to help other people with their grief.
I’m a certified grief coach, with a focus on storytelling, meaning-making and post-traumatic growth.
I believe we are ALL curators after a loved one dies. I use the lens of curating and my Curating Grief framework to help people heal in a creative, accessible way.
IT’S POSSIBLE
You deserve to thrive, not just survive, after a significant loss.
IT’S POSSIBLE
To let go of what’s weighing you down
To keep what you most cherish
To feel connected to your loved one, even as you learn how to move forward with your own life
Coaching and creativity are about finding new ways to see the world.
When we work together, you’ll discover new ways to see:
Your loved one
The other people in your life
The loss itself
Grief
The physical objects
The world
Your life
This is important because we can’t change that our loved one has died and the surrounding circumstances. But we can change how we see and experience everything.
COACHING PACKAGES
INDIVIDUAL GRIEF COACHING
UNPACKING GRIEF
Standard Six-Session Coaching Package
When’s the last time you paused and made time for your grief?
Have you ever unpacked the grief and losses you’ve been carrying throughout your life?
Whether your significant loss(es) are months, years or decades ago, you might have unacknowledged or unprocessed grief that’s weighing you down.
Let’s unpack, so you can:
- Have dedicated time to your grief.
- See clearly what you’ve been carrying.
- Prepare yourself to curate (aka choose with intention) what you bring forward with you.
- Make space for what really matters to you.
- Feel lighter as you move forward with your own fullest life!
Here are examples of what we can work on:
- Make choices about what you keep and what you discard of the physical stuff
- Navigate conflicts with family members, friends and other relationships after a significant loss
- Create ways to honor the memory of and stay connected to your loved one
- Have a plan and take action toward the life you want to live
You get:
- 6 x 60min calls via Zoom
- Recordings available if requested
- In-between support via Voxer or email
- Access to my Curating Grief framework and library of grief resources
- Complimentary in-person 30-min session if you come to Lisbon
The investment for the Unpacking Grief coaching package is $1500 USD. Payment plans are available.
CURATING GRIEF
Premium Package
Intrigued by the idea of curating an exhibition about your loved one? An exhibition can serve as a beautiful memorial, tribute or other tangible expression of love for your loved one.
With this premium package, we’ll work closely over the course of 6 months to plan, prepare and present an exhibition about your person.
And if you wish, I will travel to you to help you curate and present your exhibition (travel expenses not included).
Curating an exhibition about my mother changed everything about my experience of grief. I’d love to be by your side as you do the same for your loved one.
The investment for the premium Curating Grief package starts at $10,000 USD. Book a call to inquire.
WORK WITH ME
Grief Coaching
UNPACKING YOUR GRIEF AND LOSSES
Have you made space and time for your grief? Whether your significant loss(es) are months, years or decades ago, you might have unacknowledged or unprocessed grief that’s weighing you down. Let's unpack so you can feel lighter and more equipped to move forward.
CHOOSING WHAT TO KEEP AFTER A LOVED ONE DIES
Struggling with hard choices after the death of a loved one? How do we decide what to keep, and what to let go of? I can help.
CREATING THE MEMORIAL YOU REALLY WANT TO GIVE THEM
Facing a significant date? Whether it's a birthday, the anniversary of a death, or a major holiday, creating a memorial or commissioning artwork can be the best way to remember your person.
Or contact me at hello[at]charlenelam.com
I get more aha's from you than my therapist!
It's felt like an impossible task to try to sort through my mom's belongings. I feel like I have a place to begin this process now and it doesn't feel so terrifying. Thank you.
I love this approach as a creative outlet for grief - I'm totally inspired.
MY UNIQUE APPROACH
Curating Grief
Curating Grief After Loss
Curating Grief™ is the name of my unique approach to grief support. Why "curate" grief? Find out in this video.
CONTACT
- hello@charlenelam.com
CONNECT
YOU ARE ALL WELCOME
WORK WITH ME
GRIEF COACHING
MEET ME IN LISBON
SPEAKING AND WORKSHOPS
MONTHLY GRIEF GATHERING
Join us for The Grief Gallery's free, supportive grief group gathering the last Wednesday of the month, 2pm ET (7pm UK).
CURATING GRIEF PODCAST
- Listen to the Curating Grief podcast
GRIEF RESOURCES
Need help with grief? I can help.
Get in touch: Email hello [at] charlenelam.com
Note: Coaching and coaching consultations are not a substitute for counseling, psychotherapy, psychoanalysis, mental health care, substance abuse treatment, or other professional advice by legal, medical or other qualified professionals. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, contact 911 or your local emergency services.
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